Perfect, or Good?

One of the constantly recurring questions facing all people at some time or another is this one: Am I good enough? One of the most provocative challenges of our time has to do with the idea that good is not the goal, but that perfection is. Captions can kill We see them, read them and we feel deflated, if not…

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On wanting it all, right now

When last did you have to persevere beyond failure? We live in a world where instant gratification has become the norm. You can have instant food, instant access to money, instant weight loss, instant hair growth and promises of instant anything is everywhere. We are constantly conditioned that financial constraint is something that you can overcome by accessing credit. Are…

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The value of quiet time

It can be given many names: quiet time, meditation, reflection, mindfulness. The fact remains that human beings have the unique ability to not only perceive, make decisions and act, but to reflect on what we see, think and feel. We are also aware of the consequences of our decisions. But why is it helpful to have a regular, dedicated time…

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A space to speak freely

The world has become a seemingly transparent space.  Most people live a large part of their lives online, bringing the public domain right into their private world and vice versa.  We speak our minds visibly and receive feedback on our thoughts from relative strangers. Often we now value the comments from an online message with great attention without really evaluating…

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The world needs more than just a few good men

16 days are not sufficient time to be aware, think of and talk about gender based violence.  Awareness is good, statistics useful and fresh resolutions potentially powerful, but a deep and honest and incredibly courageous conversation about masculinity and the expressions of male sexuality is crucial.  So this is not the conversation. It’s a plea to have the conversation.  But what about?  I reckon…

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When feeling out of control is spot on

Anxiety is one of the most common complaints regarding emotions that are being treated today.  People live with varying degrees of anxiety, worry, nervousness, unease and apprehension. There are many treatment modalities available, one of which I would like to share with you. What I find quite fascinating is that almost all people that I work with who suffer from…

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Why diets don’t work: we were meant to love food

Experience has shown that there are several problems with diets. Sustainability is one. Complex emotional responses to deprivation another. Struggling with self-control one more. Hating what’s on your plate another. Fact is that we’re conditioned by multiple sources that tap into some of our most sensitive psychological vulnerabilities to believe that when it comes to the ideal appearance, we’re not there…

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